The Uncomfortable Gets Comfortable With Practice

When is the time we do what is needed for our best interest and growth? For me, it’s first thing as I awake and before I go to bed, and sometime in the midday. When this basic need is not met then I can act out or feel emotionally unbalanced. I want to eat when I am not hungry, sleep when I am not tired, or have sex to avoid loneliness. These activities are a temporary fix that does not even help anything but most likely makes the problem worse due to avoidance of what is underlying in the unconscious pain. Having the courage to look at why we try to feel happiness outside ourselves is integral to the change of circumstances in our relationship with ourselves and others. When we can acknowledge one another and voice our needs to each other, we can be an authority for our authentic selves. We all relate in different ways and how we feel nurtured from the ways we learned growing up. We all have trauma from childhood that we still have to work through as we mature as adults. The patterns can be hard to see since we are using them every day to want to feel good even though they may be doing the opposite. It takes some honesty to want to find the tools to help us get to the root of these self-defense mechanisms. When we dig in and see what we are up to, then we can understand what we need to help us feel loved and accepted. It can be hard to go deep into those uncomfortable places and feel what we need to feel so we can heal instead of cope. There is nothing wrong with either it just leads to different ways of moving through life. I still choose the easy path at times and It seems to be unfulfilling to me these days. This contradiction to change is quite a challenging process to work through, but with you, I can do anything and do it with love and patience.

©Art Gaia Frazee 9/18/2024 11:22 PM